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Their relationship was extremely close and intimate, they speak to one another like lovers, Achilles went into a massive Roaring Rampage of Revenge when Patroclus died and his last request in his own death was to have his and Patroclus' ashes mixed together so they could be together for all eternity in death. Achilles and Patroclus are, without a doubt, one of the biggest examples.In ancient Rome, men "bottoming" to others was taboo and could result in the status of "infamy", i.e. For the Greeks and Romans however, who was "top" versus "bottom" were the defining aspects of relationships (same-sex or not). Greek mythology has subsequently inspired a lot of homoerotic art, such as this painting ◊ of Apollo cradling Hyacinth. Things were toned down in Roman times (the original Narcissus myth had him spurning a male suitor) but a lot still lingered on. Furthermore, most of the Gods were bisexual. As a result, vast swathes of Ancient Greek mythological figures have serious Ho Yay going on, and on top of that, many have explicit romantic relationships with the same sex.
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This also applied to men specifically since the ancient Greek society was very patriarchal, focusing on male elites (maybe more than today) there are few sources about sexual relations between women (erotic poems by Sappho of Lesbos being the main one-it's from her name we get the term "lesbian", plus "sapphic" and "sapphist", older ones for the same thing. It was just normal, even expected for men in such relationships to be married to a woman without getting blamed for infidelity. It was not intended to be permanent (in fact, it was expected to end once the younger one grew up), romantic or monogamous (men could be in different relations like this, also with different roles) and the partners must not be equal (huge age difference, teacher-student only). Sexual relations between them were seen as a normal part of the student-teacher relationship (although there were different levels of acceptance of this depending on the city state or specific time period). In ancient Greece it was more about pederasty, in which a boy/young man (usually pubescent) was the "beloved" and was educated by an (older) adult man, the "lover".
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While today being gay (or queer in any way) is associated with an identity and homosexual (or any non-heterosexual) relationships as a (Western, contemporary) concept/ideal turn on romantic relationships between equal partners, it was different back then. note Although this would today be perceived as gay, the cultural background of the Greek ancient world has quite less in common with the present concept of homosexuality.